Trans
experience
Going
through transition can be difficult
Going through it alone is worse
I've
met some of the best people in the world to help me through my
transitional process. I'm sure that, without their help, I'd be
extremely lost. This page is for trans related information such as
passing tips.
Passing tips:
This
is the advice I have, which is
mostly compiled out of other people's tips. If you find something that
works for you, drop me an email at kalen87@gmail.com
and I'll put it up and
give you credit.
Clothes:
"If
you want to pass, it's probably best to always wear guys' clothes. Even
though the differences might be subtle, if you're wearing womens' or
girls' clothes, people will notice." Kael
I can't tell you what to wear, because it would only be my style and
that might not be what you like. I can, however, help you with things
that might work for you.
Unless your wardrobe consists of all womens' clothing and/or you have
the money, replacing everything you own really shouldn't be necessary.
Passing is just about wearing the right things and behaving the right
way.
- Pants: Don't wear anything
"Boy Cut" because it's still women's
jeans. Go straight for Mens, or if you're small enough to pull it off,
boys. Buying them two sizes (two inches in the waist) also seems to be
a good idea. It helps hide curves you might have.
- Shirts: It doesn't have to
be all polos and sweaters, but whatever it is, make sure it doesn't
cling to your A-frame, or binder. I'm
not sure if wearing
boys shirts is a good idea in this case. I personally don't know many
men that wear tight shirts (it seems rather unappealing). So, you might
want to go for something a little loose on you.
- Jewelry: I personally wear a
men's watch, the weight of it feels really nice on my wrist. If
you feel more comfortable with a standard Ironman watch with a
plastic or strap wristband, that's fine too. Rings are great jewelry to
have
- Cologne: Putting on
cologne
doesn't make you more or less of a man (and in some cases, it makes you
stink). You can go into department stores like Kaufmann's or JC
Penney's and browse through what they have to offer. You can also go to
places like (and I kid you not) Rite-Aid and Wal-Mart and get the good
stuff for half of what the department stores charge.
- Shoes: You don't have to
go out
and pay $200 for a decent pair of shoes. Sometimes, including in the
case of dress shoes, less is more. Places like Payless, and Wal-Mart
are great places to go. If cost is an issue, but you like name brand
shoes, try shopping at places like Famous Footwear. Great shoes for a
reasonable price.
Binding:
Binding is just as important as picking out the right clothes. It gives
you the appearance of flatness. There are several methods of binding
that different people use. There are also several companies that supply
items to do it.
Underworks sells these great products called Compression shirts and
vests. They come in sizes ranging from XS to XL and cost around $30
plus
shipping. To make sure they fit, you want to measure under your breast,
not over them, otherwise, it'll be too large for you. You'll find
better information on Kael's
website, as well as binding comparison pictures.
Packing:
Just like there are different methods to bind, there are different
methods to pack. If you can't afford to go out and pay for a packer at
the store, or you're too young, there's always a back up method.
The sock method is the best known, and the cheapest way to put
something in your pants. Just roll up a few gym socks, stuff them in
and go. If you can afford the more expensive methods, go for it.
Self-made Packer: A self-made packer shouldn't cost you more than $30.
It's pretty much,
condoms fashioned into the shaft and balls. You
take these condoms, after doubling them up, fill them with Gak or hair
gel and tie
them together.
Standing
to Pee:
There are quite a few methods on standing to pee. Some of them are more
affective for people than others are. People are made differently, so I
can't say what will and what won't work for you. I can just stay what
has worked for me.
Finger-assist method: It's a method where you use your fingers to
position your libia minora to where the urine will flow where you want
it to. I've found that this method didn't work so well for me, but who
knows? It could definitely work for you.
Medicine Spoon: This way, you use a medicine spoon (the kind to measure
medicine by the mL) to guide the flow of your urine. To craft one, cut
the back end at a fourty-five degree angle using a hand saw, but be
careful not to cut yourself with it. Then bring it up between your
clitoris and vaginal opening to use it. The urine flow will cause a
vacuum keeping it in place. When you're finished, tip it forward to get
the last few drops and wash it off. If you're not in a place where you
might be seen, try closing it in your hand and clean it while washing
your hands.
Modified Packer: You can modify your packer to use it as an STP device
or you can go and buy one pre-made in that fashion. They can be quite
expensive (much more expensive than the medicine spoon), but they work
the same, if not better.
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